Lesson 12: Adding Value to the Lives of Others
Adding Value to the Lives of Others
Do More For Others Than You Ever Thought Possible
In Blog 12 I clearly laid out for you your role in any organization. You need to add value to be a valuable employee. It is not what the company can do for you, it is what you can do for them. And, while organizations are made up of people, here in Lesson 12, I want to hone in more acutely on how adding value to the lives of others can make a considerable difference and change lives.
“If you make it your goal to
always find a way to add more
value to people’s lives than anyone
else then you’ll never have to
worry about success.”
Show Genuine Concern
The number one reason why people leave any job is because they do not feel appreciated. While I have not statistics, I contend that the underlying reason why marriages and relationships fail is for the exact same reason. People long to be and want to be regularly appreciated. You need to show genuine concern. Do this and you will add great value to people and make a tremendous difference.
Unfortunately, I cannot claim to be amazing in this area. I wish. I confess that I am still struggling to strike a balance. Most days, I am so swamped doing crisis management that I lack the time needed to stop, chat, and show concern. Even though, in weekly messages I always thank specific groups and people for pointed things. I also write postcards and note cards of appreciation and put them in mailboxes and offices. All of these are poor substitutes for sharing face-to-face. I know this. Still, I try to recover with other tactics. In reality, everyone wants the world to slow down for a brief moment for someone to reach out and appreciate them.
Quantity Time and Quality Time Matter
We kid ourselves into thinking that quality time is more valuable than quantity time. It is a lie. The answer really is that both matter. Your kids will not feel valued or appreciated if you prioritize everything but them for 51 weeks out of the 52 weeks in a year. You cannot possibly expect that one week of an amazing vacation to help you recover from not being there or valuing them. I can send cards until I am blue in the face (and, I will continue this practice), but, sometimes, what people want and what they really need is a hug of condolence, a shout of celebration, a handshake of a job well done. There are no substitutes for that.
Highly efficient and highly productive people who are very valuable to their organizations, often struggle with adding value directly to others. I love the story John Maxwell tells of his interactions mentoring one of his people.
“Mike,” I asked after greeting him, “how could you walk right past everybody like that?” “I’ve got a lot of work to do today,” Mike answered, “and really want to get started.” “Mike,” I said, “you just walked past your work. Never forget that leadership is about people.”
Highly efficient people do desperately care about people. Oftentimes, they just may have a hard time showing it.
Dale Carnegie said to be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise. He was so right. I have been part of many meetings where I have given out plaques, chocolates or certificates. At first, I thought these little seemingly insignificant trinkets would not matter. Then, months later I would find the certificate hanging by someone’s desk. I would see the chocolate unopened with the phrase I attached to it proudly displayed.
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Be Humble to Add Value
In our earnest quest to make a difference we often jump in way too fast. We think that as an up and coming leader we need to show our quality and test our mettle. We make quick changes, speak too much, and proceed ahead without collaboration. You will make an even greater difference, help more people, and be more valuable if you first listen and learn about people for a while. Take time to learn what people in your sphere of influence care about. What are their hobbies? What makes them tick? Listen to their concerns. Here the emotion in their voice when they talk about certain things. When you show people that you genuinely care, and only then, begin to show your skills – you will be highly valuable. Be humble to add value.
Here is a quick mnemonic device that may help you called C.A.R.E.
C ompromise. Help everyone win. Make concessions.
A pologize. Take the blame. Be sorry and mean it.
R ecognize. Learn from me. Give compliments face-to-face.
E mpathize. Be humble and show genuine concern.
You can make more friends in two months by
becoming interested in other people
than you can in two years by trying to get
other people interested in you.
Genius. I wholeheartedly wish that I would have discovered this principle long, long ago. It would have helped me avoid a major stumbling block in my journey towards a passionate life. I was steadfast, but smiling through pain is often hard to fake. People matter. For all of our major shortcomings and issues, we live in an interconnected world of unique people. Add value by showing genuine concern. Add value by being humble.
- In what ways are you valuable?
- Do you have genuine concern for others?
- Make this area a priority and change lives?